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Creating Secure Attachment

Open the door to hope, healing, and deeper connection

A free self-reflection worksheet to help you identify relational patterns.

Relationships—whether with partners, friends, or even bosses—often reveal the places where our attachment patterns live just beneath the surface. The questions in this worksheet are designed to spark awareness, curiosity, and even a little humor as you reflect on your own patterns. They aren’t about judgment or getting the “right” answer—they’re about noticing what repeats, what confuses you, and what might be quietly shaping the way you show up in relationships.

As you move through these prompts, let yourself be playful, honest, and open. You may discover threads of insight that connect directly to the heart of what we’ll explore together in Creating Secure Attachment—or you may simply find it useful to see yourself in a new light. Either way, these reflections are an invitation into greater self-understanding and compassion, the first steps toward building the kind of secure, nourishing connections you truly want.

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This worksheet is a companion to NLP Marin’s course, Creating Secure Attachment. Whether you’re new to attachment work or have explored it before, this resource will support you in seeing yourself with more compassion — and recognizing that change is possible.

If you enjoy this worksheet—or if it reveals patterns you’re curious to explore more deeply—we invite you to join us for Creating Secure Attachment. This is a 6-day live online training (October 17-19 & November 21-23, 2025) with Carl Buchheit and Carla Camou. In this course, you’ll go beyond theory to actually revise attachment patterns, experience secure attachment first-hand, and discover new ways to create trust and connection in every area of life.

“Attachment is not a diagnosis, and it’s not a fixed ‘style.’ These are patterns that form in early childhood. When people talk about ‘attachment style,’ I like to remind them: it’s not a style — it’s a program, a pattern — and patterns can be revised.”
– Carl Buchheit

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NLP Marin is an educational center that explores the how and why of human behavior and teaches the tools for creating lasting change within ourselves and respectfully with others.

We are internationally known and sought-after leaders in the innovation and transmission of contemporary transformational teachings and applications that combine and expand several modalities including Transformational NLP, Family/Systemic Constellations, psychology, neurophysiology, metaphysics, and a quantum world view.

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